In the family, everybody wants to be loved. The children want to be loved by
parents, aunts, friend’s in fact by anybody around them; husbands want to be
loved by wives also the wives want to be loved by husbands. So everybody wants
to be a love in the eyes of someone else. One thing about the insatiable desire
for love is that everyone has a unique way of being loved. So what love means
to a child may amount to nothing to the father. For example, going on weekend outings, visiting eateries and entertainment centers
means a lot to the child while to the dad, that amounts to a waste of
resources. That is the ’nonsense’ to the man but an act of love to the child.
And I call such a 'nonsense' that makes sense in a relationship.
To some women, if their husbands could do such things as spending quality time with them, coming home with special parcel always, helping out in domestic chores and all that, such women will be the happiest of the moment. You would agree with me that such amounts to acts of love to such women while making 'no sense' to the man. That is what I the 'nonsense' that makes sense in a relationship.
Now to some men, if their wives could let them be after work and avoid bugging them with stories that are 'inconsequential', they would have peace at home and feel loved. Now for the women, sharing her stories with hubby amounts to love while making 'no sense' to the man. Also, some men would wish 'if my wife could just make the home look good, serve me, my best meal and experience the fun of bed, they would be happy at home. So to such men, these acts are lovely while making 'no sense' to the woman. And that is what I call the 'nonsense' that makes sense.
To the maid in a home, love also means something which may amount to nothing to the mother or father of the house. And such is the 'nonsense' that makes sense in a relationship.
When a man and his woman are hot on the bed, the woman may wish 'I wish my man could do this or that to me, I wish he could just go on caressing me without penetration, he will be the best'. And the men may be thinking 'I wish my woman would let me penetrate now that I'm up, I wish she could suck this'. While things may be splendid to Mr. A, it may amount nonsense’ to Mrs. B. And such is what I call the 'nonsense' that makes sense.
And one of the ways to entrench peace in the home is to yield to the 'nonsense' that makes sense. For example, the woman whose love language is act of service will be at peace whenever her man does such things that are service to her. While the man may not be happy doing it, the woman is smiling and takes her man to be the best. In a nut shell, the best way to love someone is to love him or her exactly the way (s)he wishes to be loved and not how I wish to love him or her. In the field of love, selfishness is ruled out.
To some women, if their husbands could do such things as spending quality time with them, coming home with special parcel always, helping out in domestic chores and all that, such women will be the happiest of the moment. You would agree with me that such amounts to acts of love to such women while making 'no sense' to the man. That is what I the 'nonsense' that makes sense in a relationship.
Now to some men, if their wives could let them be after work and avoid bugging them with stories that are 'inconsequential', they would have peace at home and feel loved. Now for the women, sharing her stories with hubby amounts to love while making 'no sense' to the man. Also, some men would wish 'if my wife could just make the home look good, serve me, my best meal and experience the fun of bed, they would be happy at home. So to such men, these acts are lovely while making 'no sense' to the woman. And that is what I call the 'nonsense' that makes sense.
To the maid in a home, love also means something which may amount to nothing to the mother or father of the house. And such is the 'nonsense' that makes sense in a relationship.
When a man and his woman are hot on the bed, the woman may wish 'I wish my man could do this or that to me, I wish he could just go on caressing me without penetration, he will be the best'. And the men may be thinking 'I wish my woman would let me penetrate now that I'm up, I wish she could suck this'. While things may be splendid to Mr. A, it may amount nonsense’ to Mrs. B. And such is what I call the 'nonsense' that makes sense.
And one of the ways to entrench peace in the home is to yield to the 'nonsense' that makes sense. For example, the woman whose love language is act of service will be at peace whenever her man does such things that are service to her. While the man may not be happy doing it, the woman is smiling and takes her man to be the best. In a nut shell, the best way to love someone is to love him or her exactly the way (s)he wishes to be loved and not how I wish to love him or her. In the field of love, selfishness is ruled out.
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