The picture of an old man holding his wife so dearly in a metro cut my interest. And it is not strange to see couples living like strangers in and outside their homes. But this is wrong. Marital love is like two unlike poles of a bar magnet. Even though they are unlike yet they attract each other. This is the irony of live.
Sometimes the one you admire refuses to appreciate your efforts, well that's like poles that cannot attract each other.
In my early days in the high school when the feelings of love were coming in, I was so much in love with Deborah who's every man's dream of friendship. I expressed my intention to make her my girlfriend in many ways-buying gifts, launch and other efforts to win her attention. I remember being mocked by her friends because of my affectionate gestures to Deborah. Yet the more I tried, the more I fail.
Similarly, Before I settle for my wife, I had this beautiful lady I had loved so much. Actually she pretended to love my back but her actions towards me were more hurtful than the love. The More I tried to please her, the more hurt I experience. To a point I asked myself does love really hurt like this? When the relationship finally ended, my pains continued until I found Aijay.
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A couple in a metro holding hands together |
Most of us that have the experience know how hurtful it is. It is so bad that the harder you fight to win 'your intending love' the more you are being rejected by the one you love.
This experience of loving someone who doesn't love you back to back is like the experience of hugging a cactus tree. The tree is beautiful and admirable with thorns. The more you hug it the more you get Hurt.
We all love and want to be loved back in our unique ways. For you to experience the sweetness of your love, you must fall in love with someone that loves you and appreciates and respects your love and feeling otherwise the more you try to love someone who doesn't love you, the more you hurt your good feelings. But the moment you found the one that loves you, you experience the wholesomeness and beauty of Love. Marital Love is More of a cohesive than a repulsive force.