IT PAYS TO WAIT

I have the urge to encourage those beautiful queens who have decided to maintain Gods standard as it relates to sex before marriage especially those, who by such decision have remained unbroken. I read the case of teenager who was being mocked for choosing to remain a virgin. Well that is not unusual; we live in a society where abstinence has little or no value.

I heard the story of man who went to honor a parents and teachers meeting invitation in his son’s school. Well the goal of the meeting was to demonstrate to the parents what the school is doing to encourage abstinence. After a while in the meeting, there was a break and the principal asked that everybody move back for light refreshment. He also encouraged everybody to pick a name tag and fix it on their cloth and then move around and have handshakes with people. Everybody except the man did as the principal said. The principal did all he could to push the man do what the others were doing but the man had a firm resolution not to join the others in what they are doing so he absolutely abstained. At the end, the principal explained that there is a name tag that has a flower shape, ‘who has it?’ one man behind said ‘I do.’ So the man came out, and the principal identified the people that had a direct and indirect handshake with him. At the end, virtually everybody had a direct or indirect handshake with the man.

The principal maintained that it is assumed that the flower is HIV while the handshake is a mode of transmission. That being the case, it implies everybody has knowingly or unknowingly contracted the virus. Finally he explained that there was an exception-someone who refused to compromise his stand, he abstained from doing what the others are doing.

And that is the key lesson in this story-total abstinence, refusal to compromise a standard pays.

To remain pure, you must be mindful of the friends you keep. Some friends have lost what you have and may try to lure you into their court. They may mock you and laugh at you. May I give you a key? If they mock you, tell them you know whom you and where you are. You are what you are and they are what they are you can be where they are at any time of your choice but they cannot be where you are anymore. Give yourself such encouragement. Go with people of a like mind. If possible, discuss what have helped you to remain pure, some of the challenges and how to overcome it among yourselves-(people of a like mind).

Write out your reasons for abstaining and remind yourself of the reasons more often

Chose and Control the environment/situations you visit

Recall that it is challenging to move against the crowd

Avoid sexual behaviors or sexually related activities that can compromise your standard.

So I encourage those our damsels to maintain their standard and do not compromise in that aspect. Do not be pushed by what the others are doing but be resolute about maintaining the standard-in this case the Bible standard.

It really pays beside; you are saving yourself from so much harm if you have decided to remain pure