MY MAN HAS REFUSED TO GIVE IT TO ME AS I DESIRE

I just read the story of a pregnant woman who was complaining of her husband’s inability to satisfy her sexual urge at the same time seeking for people’s opinion on how to handle the situation. According to the lady who is 21 weeks pregnant, she has recently developed high urge for sex. Consequently, she opened up to her hubby and asked him to increase the number of meeting times. But the man being ‘compassionate’ enough promised a maximum of three times a week because of her safety and that of their baby. People responded very well with each person giving his version of what the couple should and should not do. While some were of the opinion that the man should respond positively to his wife’s request, the others were accusing the woman of promiscuity and demanded that she nip the bud and allow the man to decide.

In my view, I think the lady needs a form of commendation. In our society today, the majority of our women feel that it is solely the responsibility of the man (the husband) to initiate sex. Even when they (the women) have developed the urge, they would rather remain silent; waiting for the time the man will make the move. That to me is wrong. When you are married, the two has become one, there should be this open minded principle, couple should not unnecessarily be feeling shy in the presence of their partner, that body becomes his property as soon as you are joined together so also his body turns out to be hers. When the urge is there, common dance to the tunes, make the unusual move and stop dying in silence. If you were hiding the feelings when you were single, of what need is it to do same when levels have changed. So to me, the ‘pregy’ lady receives my thumbs up.

Then for the people that were condemning she for speaking out, I don’t think there was need for that. Any where most of them I observed were single ‘inexperienced’ ladies. Now to the best of my knowledge, pregnancy is the pride of a man and I know many people are looking forward to that. But it has its ups and down, coming with lots of pains at different times. One thing about it is that this week you feel different from the way you are going to feel by the next week. Today you may feel like eating okra soup but by tomorrow you may hate the same soup with passion, toady you would feel like having your man lots of times but by tomorrow it seems a risky moment. But all these are the joy of it. The man is expected to understand with his wife and play the palliative role every time.

So to me, if much time sex is what this lady and her pregnancy requires, ah! The man should not hesitate to give it to her as much as she desires, so long as the safety of the baby and her mama is guaranteed.