The true colour of friendship

Who is a friend? This is a particular question that begets different valid answers from different people. To some their friends are those who certainly believe in them while behaving like them. No wonder we have the common expressions-show me your friend and I will tell you whom you are and birds of a feather flock together. Gentle guys keep gentle friends. Rugged keeps rugged friends. Drunkards keep drunkard friends. Religious people keep religious friends. You cannot behave differently from your friends.
Some friends who hang out with you to merry are not true friends at all to you. They pose everywhere and assume the position of true friends. They're just there to rejoice over your weak points or your mistakes. They are just there for their selfish interest and to sap you of whatever valuable within your reach. The worst is that these are the people that should not just be friends to you but brothers and sisters. If you talk they would say 'what has this one got to contribute?' If you fail to talk they would say 'that's just him, he has nothing to offer, bench warmer like him.' When you air a view which to an extent makes sense they would never appreciate that. But that is not the best way to lead. We are born to be friends love and appreciate each other. After all there is a sense in every non-sense.

What is the essence of friendship that fails to help his friend who is in need for something affordable to him? What is the essence of friendship that cannot respect you and fails to give a lending hand when you needed it most? What is the essence of friends that pride in your downfall? What is the essence of friends who you cannot confide in, a pressing matter? What is the essence of friends who you cannot be trusted? What is the essence of friends that only pride in what they could benefit from you and not in what could benefit you as well? What is the essence of friendship that can secretly take what belongs to you when they have the opportunity?
A lot of friends have betrayed their friends and that is simply because there was no love at all or the love at that point in time was lost. I cannot love you and have the mind to cheat on you. I cannot love you and have to mind to betray you. I cannot love you and conceive evil against you. What are we friends for? In 1 Corinthians 13:5 says (Love) does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked and thinks no evil. The true essence of friendship is love, support, encouragement, and honesty. The true essence of friendship is to make allowance for the little laps of the other while putting a smile on his face. To err is human but to forgive is divine.

Indisputably, there those who have proven to us time after time that it pays to be friends and to me that is a true essence of friendship. The true essence of friendship is love. The bible says love cover all sins. A true friend is that who can accept you as you are, ready to move on with you always-in times of want and in times of plenty; he who can keep your secrete and confides in you his secretes. A true friend is that who can readily give you a lending hand in times of your wants. A true friend is that who has proven for years to be there for you. My true friends are the ones that came into my life and make me see the sun where I once saw cloud, they believe in me so much that I started to believe in myself a little bit more than I used to, they love me simply because it is me, they are amazing.

In choosing who your friend becomes, do not do that in haste,  Agreed, anyone who wants to betray you will still do that even when ordained a Bishop, but taking time to choose who becomes your friend gives you the opportunity to understand if the prospective friend is worth being your friend. I am not advocating enmity between anyone, nope, be friends to all with the understanding that everyone behaves differently.